Ep. 28 Can People Really Change?

Transformation, Addiction & Dexter

EPISODE 28 / 06.11.2025

Is true change possible? Todd and Bettijo tackle this universal personal growth query head-on! Join them for a humorous exploration of addiction, mindset, and habits, inspired by a famous serial killer show, plus relatable stories of family life and the quest for self-improvement.

Show Notes

In this lively episode, Todd and Bettijo kick off by debating the “gore” (or lack thereof) in their current binge-watch, Dexter, and Bettijo is worried she has become desensitized to on-screen violence. This leads them to a fascinating discussion about change itself, particularly in the context of addiction. Todd shares his strong belief that personal change is absolutely possible through hard work and a willingness to confront your own patterns. They explore the idea of addiction as a disease, the perils of experimentation, and the common human tendency to resist uncomfortable growth. 

Bettijo introduces the powerful concept that change begins in the mind and that we often mistakenly expect others to change before ourselves. They wrap up with humorous anecdotes about go-kart racing, the realities of parenting young children, and Todd’s own journey of significant personal change.

EPISODE Highlights

• Todd and Bettijo’s differing views on “gore” in Dexter and desensitization. (1:15)
• The premise of Dexter and its connection to the possibility of change. (2:57)
• Discussion on the phrase “once an addict, always an addict” and the nature of addiction as a disease. (5:10)
• Todd shares his personal belief that change is possible with work. (9:10)
• Bettijo emphasizes that change begins in the mind and requires visualization. (9:39)
• The importance of being realistic about the “cost” of change and goals. (9:54)
• Todd’s humorous (and debated) insistence on professional go-kart racing as a job. (12:11)
• Todd’s personal example of changing with the responsibilities of having younger children. (17:00)
• Todd’s journey from being a “hoe” to a married man, proving change is possible. (15:30)
• Bettijo’s stress from watching Dexter due to her empathic nature. (16:10)
• We discuss the tendency to expect change from others instead of ourselves. (21:15)
• The idea that we are meant to change and improve, comparing ourselves only to our past selves. (22:06)
• Bettijo mentions the Cockroach Poker bluffing game they like to play as a family (23:24)
• God as the one constant in a world of change. (25:20)

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Listen to Learn

• Why the concept of “once an addict, always an addict” is both true and false.
• How significant personal change is truly possible if you’re willing to put in the work.
• Why resisting change can keep you stuck and prevent personal growth.
• The power of internal change and how it begins in your mindset.

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