The Secret to Happiness is YOU
EPISODE 27 / 06.04.2025
Ever feel like the world is against you—or that your happiness depends on someone else (like, say, Taylor Swift… if only she returned our calls)? This week, Todd and Bettijo dive into a surprisingly empowering truth: if you’re the problem, you’re also the solution.
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Show Notes
In this eye-opening episode, Todd and Bettijo tackle the empowering concept that taking responsibility for your own emotions and reactions is the key to unlocking true happiness. They explore how our thoughts create our feelings and how we often unknowingly punish ourselves when we feel bad, and even sometimes when we feel good.
Bettijo shares insights from therapy about resisting the natural urge to “mirror” others’ negative energy and instead choosing curiosity or confusion over defensiveness in conflicts. Todd brings a relatable perspective, sharing how past trauma can filter positive comments into negative interpretations, emphasizing the importance of re-filtering thoughts.
While they might playfully disagree on some generalizations, they both wholeheartedly agree that cultivating internal happiness is a personal journey, free from reliance on external factors. The episode also features a lively “ToddFlix” segment where Todd recommends the historical drama 1923 and shares some fun Hollywood trivia.
EPISODE Highlights
- Taylor Swift’s “Anti-Hero” song inspiration. (0:45)
- You’re the problem, you’re the solution. (1:17)
- We are the only ones who feel our emotions. (1:32)
- Rewarding ourselves when we feel good, punishing ourselves when we feel bad. (2:18)
- The “Taylor Swift Game” Bettijo plays with her kids in the car. (3:45)
- The thoughts you are thinking create feelings that you alone feel. (6:01)
- Choosing not to mirror others’ negative energy. (7:41)
- Food’s role in attitude and mood. (9:32)
- Stop looking for happiness in other people. (10:14)
- Lessons we learned in Jody Moore’s “Stop Fighting With Your Spouse” class and alternatives to defensiveness. (12:10)
- The person who does the work is the winner. (14:47)
- Trauma can filter positive comments as negative. (16:49)
- Todd Flix recommendation: The Yellowstone series prequel “1923.” (18:26)
- Harrison Ford’s stardom connection to Tom Selleck. (27:36)
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Listen to Learn
- Discover why taking responsibility for your own feelings is the ultimate power move.
- Learn how to intentionally choose your reactions and break free from mirroring negative energy.
- Understand the importance of self-happiness and how it’s an internal job.
- Get tips on how to re-filter negative thoughts and cultivate a more positive internal environment.
Ready to take control of your happiness? Hit Play now and dive into this empowering conversation!
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