Ep. 43 The Wild Power of Horses

Equine Therapy with Siarra Decomi

EPISODE 43 / 10.01.2025

Join Todd and Bettijo as transformational coach Siarra Decomi reveals how the parts of yourself you try to “fix” are the actual keys to your personal freedom, proving that your scary breakdown might actually be a breakthrough—all thanks to the incredible insight of rescued mustangs!

Show Notes

This week, Todd and Bettijo sit down with transformational coach Siarra Decomi, founder of Wild Hooves Open Hearts, a non-profit dedicated to mustang rescue and equine-guided empowerment. Siarra helps people stop white-knuckling life by showing them how to come home to themselves. She dives into the profound idea that your toughest challenges might not mean you are “broken,” but that you’re in a “portal”—a season of change where your breakdown is a breakthrough moment, leading to growth and personal freedom.

The conversation explores the fascinating world of equine therapy, where horses act as a powerful mirror and reflection, sensing human energy and helping people get out of their overthinking minds and drop into their bodies to be present. Todd, a former horse owner himself, shares a funny, yet telling, story about his horse, Sailor, proving just how intuitively intelligent these animals are. Siarra shares the heartbreaking reality of the Bureau of Land Management’s process for wild American mustangs and why she felt called to begin her rescue work.

The episode finishes with a discussion on deconstruction—shedding old ways of thinking—and how to truly live from your sovereignty and take responsibility for your life, an idea that Todd also explores through his own recovery program. Todd even recounts his past life as a circus trapeze artist and the moment he realized he had no control (and was done with lions!)—a perfect, hilarious example of a planned life derailing into a surprising and safe new path. Listeners will walk away with a fresh perspective on control, vulnerability, and the simple, profound power of being present.

HIGHLIGHTS

• Todd shares a hilarious story about his horse, Sailor, who knew exactly how to mess with him. (1:27)
• Siarra explains the challenges for wild American mustangs in the Bureau of Land Management’s program. (2:30)
• Siarra describes how she went from a career in banking and finance to becoming a transformational coach. (5:10)
• The difference between “breaking” a horse and equine-guided empowerment. (6:38)
• How horses act as a reflection and mirror to show you what you need to see about yourself. (7:23)
• The concept of tapping into your “lead mare energy” to live from your sovereignty. (9:36)
• Siarra explains why you are not “broken,” but are simply in a “portal” of change. (16:52)
• Drawing parallels between life principles and retro video games, with a lighthearted exchange on favorite classics. (18:12)
• Todd recounts the scary moment on the trapeze that caused him to quit the circus for good. (28:39)
• Siarra explains a different approach to “shadow work” that involves fully feeling and integrating difficult emotions. (32:57)
• The philosophy of Existential Kink and realizing you might enjoy the drama you’re creating. (36:03)
• Bettijo ties the book The Obstacle is the Way into the discussion. (39:01)
• The power of staying neutral and not panicking, whether facing an emotional trigger or a rattlesnake bite. (43:51)
• ToddFlix: The Rookie (48:05)

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Tune in to learn

• Why your breakdown is a breakthrough in disguise.
• The simple secret to personal freedom: getting out of your head and dropping into your body.
• How to live from your sovereignty and take back your power (no more people-pleasing!).
• What “deconstruction” means and why shedding your old self is essential.
• The transformative, healing power of equine therapy and rescued mustangs.

If you’re tired of white-knuckling life and ready to ditch the constant cycle of overthinking, hit play now to learn how these wild mustangs can guide you to your very own breakthrough!